It’s time to stop pitting men against women, or women against men! It’s a cycle of hate that inhibits our evolution and stifles our potential. It makes no sense for our collective journey, as a species on Earth, to keep destroying ourselves from within! Instead, we should focus on understanding, and mutual support, recognizing that our differences can be a source of strength rather than division.
The only way forward is to adopt collaborative practices to ensure we meet the needs of every individual amidst our families and communities. It’s the expectations that society places on men or women to fulfill certain roles that causes the most harm, often leading to frustration and a sense of inadequacy when individuals feel they cannot meet these arbitrary standards. There is far too much debate and confusion surrounding the topic of men’s and women’s roles within our workplaces and households.
To understand the fundamental roles of both genders, we need to strip back the labels and expectations that society holds on men and women. Nature has created the foundations for our species to thrive, laying out the intricate tapestry of traits and characteristics that can be observed in both genders throughout history. Therefore, the basic answers that we seek to bridge our understanding of male and female roles are presented in plain sight!
Starting at Conception
The whole subject of gender roles in relationships stems from the innate responsibility of individuals to procreate and start a family!
Creating a new life (a baby) at the point of conception is the pinnacle highlight to a man or woman’s existence! Birthing new life creates the heartbeat that keeps the human story alive! This is the central framework that the universe requires each of us to nurture and protect! From this understanding, we can build a structure for the roles of men and women to coexist in harmony, support and respect for one another.
To reach the point of conception it requires a physical bond between a man and a woman in the act of sexual intercourse (ideally without IVF intervention), that leads to a man’s sperm fertilising a woman’s egg.
Today’s society puts too much emphasis on the human drive to want sex, while disregarding the underlying hormones and the body’s urgency to create a baby. This societal fixation often overshadows the biological imperatives that govern reproductive behavior, leading many to view sex purely as a recreational activity rather than understanding its fundamental purpose in the continuation of our species. In doing so, we ignore the profound influence that hormones like testosterone and estrogen have on our desires and actions, often reducing complex human emotions to mere acts of physical gratification. Furthermore, this perspective can foster a disconnection between intimacy and procreation, making it essential to recognize that, at a biological level, the urge to reproduce is deeply ingrained in our existence, prompting us to question whether our current attitudes towards sex truly align with our natural instincts and evolutionary history.
Our societal viewpoint on sex, alone, is a big concern as it devalues an individual’s needs for autonomy and choices surrounding their own reproductive rights. This perception often leads to a culture where personal agency is undermined, causing individuals to feel pressured to conform to societal norms rather than making informed decisions that reflect their personal beliefs and circumstances.
Gaining the ‘license’ to reproduce
Although the human body has an inbuilt desire to reproduce, the act of having intercourse is not a human right! This is determined by a number of factors during courtship between a man and a woman, which include mutual consent, emotional connection, and the circumstances surrounding their relationship.
It’s true that women are the gatekeepers to sex! It’s her body that determines when she’s ready to reciprocate a man’s advances. Women should be selective of the male partners she chooses to mate with, as this choice carries significant implications not only for her own life but also for the future lineage she may establish. Humans aren’t separate from other species of animals; in fact, our evolution, much like theirs, depends on selective breeding to strengthen our species’ chance for survival. This evolutionary viewpoint emphasizes the importance of women’s roles in choosing partners wisely, as it directly impacts the traits that will be passed down to future generations. This means that women should choose partners with desirable qualities, such as physical strength and endurance, the ability to provide safety, support, and structure within a household, along with emotional intelligence and the capacity to understand and adhere to a woman’s needs.
A man has the liberty to choose a female partner who attracts his attention, as long as she’s interested and willing to engage in the interaction. Once she’s ready to proceed, this is the man’s cue to maintain her interest by displaying his finest qualities, while placing her in a space that feels safe and relaxed. This environment is crucial, as it fosters a sense of trust and openness that can enhance the connection between them. This will give her the grounds to be open to a man’s energy and invite him closer, potentially leading to physical touch. Ultimately, the key lies in allowing the chemistry to unfold organically, respecting her pace, and creating meaningful moments that enrich their time together.
Each progression in the interaction will be led by a man’s advances, and the woman’s willingness to engage with the bond that’s building between them. The amount of time and effort that takes place in the courtship is dependent on the individuals involved. It is essential to create a comfortable space where both partners feel safe to express their feelings and intentions.
It’s important to emphasise that the lead-up to intercourse is a constant exchange of give-and-take of conscious energy between a man and a woman, marked by genuine communication, mutual respect, and the development of shared trust. Engaging in playful flirtation, deep conversations, and meaningful gestures can all enhance this connection. At no point should force and resistance be a means to gain access to someone else’s body, as true intimacy is built on the foundation of consent and an atmosphere of shared vulnerability.
Only when a mutual bond occurs, and both man and woman are willing participants in physical intimacy, a person gains the license to reproduce!
How Society’s view of Reproduction has changed.
The human approach to relationships and intimacy has evolved through a millenia of cultural and societal changes. The topic of intimacy itself, has progressed with humanity’s journey, which started as a need for survival. In order to keep our species alive and thriving, early humans were required to continue the lineage of seasonal offspring of future generations. As populations grew, survival transformed into feelings of security, and humans became more creative while their minds were given more time to explore and express themselves. Intimacy as well became a space between couples that they could explore the ways that their bodies were intune to the ways that touch evoked different emotions and sensations, resulting in more chances to reproduce. Over time, as family structures changed from village networks to smaller household hubs, the human identity was inspired by the concept of large families with multiple offspring. Today, humanity is grappling with the dynamics in relationships and how the different roles and responsibilities of men and women impacts the many aspects of life that society has built upon us.
It’s the pressures of society that forces people in relationships to make these hard decisions around their body’s fertility as we exist in this busy, demanding, and fast-paced world.
From puberty to menopause a woman’s body will continue to go through monthly cycles of ovulation, putting her at risk of becoming pregnant through regular intercourse with her male partner.
Couples are deciding to put-off having children while the financial and societal burdens that come with raising kids is becoming less desirable in the list of future aspects for relationships. This is the main reason why many women are choosing to stay single. The need for couples to prevent having children calls for interventions in the form of contraceptives.
Addressing the Contraception Issue
The discussion surrounding the many forms of contraceptives and who’s responsible for using them should be a conversation between every couple who’s engaged in sexual intercourse.
The key questions to address are:
- Do both partners want children in the future, or do they have differing opinions on starting a family at some point in their lives?
- Will kids be a future possibility? If so, when do we anticipate this happening, and what factors might influence the timing of such decisions?
- What options are there for available contraceptives, including various methods, effectiveness rates, and potential side effects?
- Who will be responsible for using contraceptives, in the relationship, to ensure mutual understanding and agreement on maintaining proper sexual health and preventing unintended pregnancies?
From here, the question arises; why are men and women choosing to put more importance on sexual relationships rather than focusing on creating a family? It’s as if sexual desire is taking precedence over the very purpose of having sex. In today’s fast-paced and often superficial world, many individuals seem to prioritize short-term pleasure over long-term commitment, leading to a societal shift where instant gratification overshadows deeper emotional connections. Controlling nature to this extreme is causing confusion and division between men and women; traditional roles and expectations are being challenged, resulting in a lack of clarity surrounding relationships and partnership dynamics. We’ve forgotten our most basic purpose!
I believe that society’s perspective, and approach to sex and relationships, needs a new outlook!
When sex becomes a drug!
Society has created a human condition where there’s an unhealthy addiction to sexual energy and the chemical hormones that we experience during intimacy. This obsession can manifest in various forms, including excessive focus on physical relationships, superficial encounters, and a constant search for the next high that comes from sexual excitement.
There are other facets of life that require as much attention but humans are claiming their identity around how much sexual activity they’re rewarded from their partners. And that’s just it! We’re using sex as a reward system that makes an individual feel special, and their ego gets a boost from it. Consequently, sex is becoming a means of personal fulfillment rather than a humble beginning to create a new life!
This means that a certain connection is often missing when a man and a woman come together in sexual intimacy!
Sex should be viewed as the “ultimate union” between the masculine and feminine, a sacred bond that transcends mere physical interaction. This energy is powerful and transformative, serving as a conduit for emotional and spiritual connection. It embodies intimacy, trust, and shared vulnerability. It shouldn’t be mistreated or diminished for just mere pleasure.
Humanity can come to a great understanding of the male and female roles in relationships if we clean up our act of misusing sexual energy!
The Gift of Creation
The Universe is designed to support life, with our solar system intricately structured to maintain the delicate balance necessary for life to thrive on Earth. Humans, as a part of this rich tapestry of life, are given five senses that enable us to sense danger and interact with our environment in profound ways. Our instincts, honed over millennia of evolution, teach us the essential elements we need for survival, including clean air and water, access to food and shelter, and creating adequate space for rest or physical activity, and the need to reproduce!
After survival, we’re given the time and space to be able to explore and interact with our surroundings. It’s here that humans become innovative and we’ve managed to cover the globe in all of humanity’s creations, in the form of art, music, dance, literature, architecture, machinery, technology, and the list goes on. Amidst all of this innovation, we have the most important creation of all – US! Each and every human being is contributing towards the collective story of humanity!
The power to create puts us in a position to make a choice about the future that we all want! In a serious discussion with the stranger sitting next to you, we can conclude that everyone wants the same outcome – a world of peace, harmony, and a community of every individual working together! The result would be heaven on Earth!
With this knowledge, and the power of creation that you’re granted to uphold, you can begin to make more informed decisions around every aspect of your being, including the relationships you seek to build a future with!
Relationships – What are they?!
The simple fact is, most people don’t know what a relationship is, or why we have them!
Humans are a very unique species when we witness a bond between a man and a woman. The human ego is responsible for a lot of the hatred and division between the sexes. The need to own and possess something that we value or desire for personal gratification is the reason why many relationships fail.
Humans have spread across the Earth like a plague! Therefore, it’s harder for us to maintain healthy societies and social structures within a group. While there are certain species of animal that claim a life-long partner to live out their days as just the two of them, such as some lizards and birds, humans are designed to live in community groups. We are highly sociable creatures, though we’re currently facing a loneliness epidemic worldwide.
Our current society continues to fracture communities as we’re driven by ambition and competition to have more-and-more possessions. Our focus is on material gain for higher social status! It’s the economic system, owned by the elites, that lures the public to want all of this material wealth! Their position of power feeds off your greed and envy! Instead, our focus needs to turn back to community and our relationships with ourselves and eachother.
A healthy community will have all of the resources to provide a safety net for our children to grow and thrive through to adulthood. They will feel loved, protected, and nourished in mind, body, and spirit! This includes having access to clean air and water, healthy wholesome foods, parks and neighbourhoods to explore, education that inspires creative talents, and a supportive network of friends, family and elders to help guide and support their life-journey. All of these relationships are a person’s foundation to lean on as they learn, grow and evolve!
Each individual has a multitude of relationships to everything outside of themselves! Your relationship is different to the person next to you, in relation to your house, your car, your dog, the neighbour’s garden, and your workplace, just to name a few. Relationships are a subjective experience for every individual. Certain kinds of relationships, particularly those with the opposite sex, are considered the strongest, dependent on the attraction and bond that is shared between them.
Therefore, relationships are primarily caused between a person and the bond, or attraction, they hold in relation to another person or object.
Finding that ‘one’ special bond between a man and a woman is a process that takes time and patience. Both parties need to be spiritually awakened and intune with the energies surrounding them. They will be intentionally seeking a companion who draws and engages their attention to begin building a mutual bond shared through traits such as character and charisma. Through further interaction and positive engagement between a man and a woman, the strongest connection is built, which has the potential to last a lifetime built upon mutual love, respect, support and commitment to each other.
Sealing the Bond
If you have managed to find that special, long-lasting bond with a person of the opposite sex, and trust and loyalty has been established, then you have reached an important milestone in your relationship!
Once committed to each other, a man and woman need to have a solid understanding of each other’s wants, needs and expectations, in all aspects of the relationship. These topics include: personal boundaries, material possessions, financial stability, prospects of having children, relation to family and community, preferred living arrangements, and the expected roles and responsibilities that both parties share. These discussions should build the framework for their future relationship together!
With all of these key components in perspective, the union between a man and woman can be granted, and a ritual ceremony may be honoured.
Marriage becomes a symbol of the sacrifice and commitment that both men and women promise each other. Often, this union should take place before sexual intercourse, and after the discussion surrounding fertility, child bearing and raising a family together.
Couples are welcome to explore physical intimacy in the early stages of a relationship (through touch, kissing, cuddling, etc), without engaging in sexual intercourse before having made the important life-changing decisions.
Once married, the promised couple can pursue the means necessary to begin building the life they want together!
Making Gender Roles Clear
The reason for the strong connection between a man and a woman is due to the polarity created through Yin and Yang, due to the relationship between consciousness and energy. Learn about “What is Conscious Energy and Why Does It Matter?”
Yin represents the feminine, and Yang refers to the masculine! To understand their differences, we first need to look at their separate characteristics:
| YIN | YANG |
| Female Embodiment (Feminine) | Male Embodiment (Masculine) |
| Consciousness | Energy |
| Mind | Body |
| Mental/Emotional | Physical/Spiritual |
| Passive | Assertive |
| Cold | Hot |
| Moist | Dry |
| Soft | Hard |
| Stillness | Activity |
| Dark | Light |
| Moon | Sun |
| Negative (-) | Positive (+) |
It’s clear that men and women were created opposite, and our bodies were built for separate purposes. The softer, gentler make-up of a woman makes her the perfect caregiver, who takes pleasure in finer details such as decorating and turning a house into a home. Men, with more physical strength and endurance, are designed for construction, defending the home, and competing for food and resources. This perfect balance of opposing energies within a relationship, creates a harmonious exchange of giving and receiving!
Family households require routines and structure to ensure harmony and balance continue in daily life. In the process of growing a family, it’s clear how a baby is conceived and that it’s the woman (the mother) that grows and carries the fetus until it’s a newborn.
During pregnancy, the father will be responsible for providing safety, warmth and comfort while supporting his partner.
Once the baby is born, naturally the mother has the responsible role of feeding and nurturing that child throughout infancy, childhood, adolescence, and through until it becomes an independent adult.
A committed father will continue to devote his time, energy, and resources into providing comfort and support to his wife and family.
The roles of household chores need to be discussed and allocated between the couple, while ensuring that everyone’s needs are taken care of. It should be an equal and fair share of responsibilites, split between both parties, to maintain the healthy connection of a loving and supportive relationship.
Ideally, a couple should have a support network of family, friends, and community who are willing and able to provide backups if needed.
Today, society has forced parent’s attention away from the family, to focus on financial and material wealth. While these things are still important, we only need a basic and sustainable amount of wealth or abundance, but not to the extent that we’re witnessing! The cost of living puts pressure on families to expect mums and dads to work, as single incomes fall short of covering basic needs.
If all of these challenges that society places on families could be foreseen before starting a family, that would be ideal. But, even with years of planning, many couples are struggling to keep up! Society is working against families and creating more divisions within our communities!
Families are dependent on strong communities!
A father’s role revolves around more external factors – outside of the home, while a mother’s role focuses on the inner-workings of the family/household.
Beyond nurturing and raising children, a mother can create beauty through arts and crafts, cooking, gardening and decorating. She is the empress who brings colour, warmth and love into the home.
A father will be understanding of the mother’s role of raising healthy and happy children. This is a demanding, full-time job that requires her constant attention and care. She will be drained of her conscious energy mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. A supportive husband will allow her to rest when she needs to, provide her with comfort and space, let her feel what she’s feeling, and listen to her concerns. While her energy is depleted, she needs her husband to help rekindle her energy and mood.
Having a child changes a woman’s hormones and her body goes through major repair following a pregnancy and childbirth. Her body will look and feel different to how it felt before conceiving a pregnancy, which is expected from accommodating a full-grown fetus and the fluids to support it. The first few months of a baby’s life demands a mother’s constant care and protection, plus the added needs of breast-feeding, changing soiled nappies/diapers, and broken sleep patterns that revolves around the baby’s body-clock. This overwhelmed mother isn’t going to be interested in reciprocating a man’s desire for sexual intercourse. A loving and caring husband who promised to stay by her side, will respect her boundaries during this time. Her desire for sexual intimacy will return when the time is right for her.
While raising young children, the best thing a father can do, is be loving, supportive and resourceful towards his family. He is the emperor who brings stability and strength into his home. Therefore, the father brings energy into the home, and the mother can utilise his strength and resources, and direct them to where it’s needed most. This makes both roles of the mother and father equally important!
Once a child comes of age, particularly with boys, their talents or interests can be initiated by a group of men, to be taught the skills of his trade – whether it be craftsmen, tradesmen, hunters, soldiers, farmers, investors, healers, philosophers, etc. With girls, they can be taught finer skills in arts, crafts, cooking, healing, teaching, gardening, animal husbandry, nursing, etc.
I understand that society has evolved, which places huge demands on men and women to perform beyond their physical and mental capacities. Though, the needs of children to be raised within supportive communities remains the same. We need to stop conforming to external pressures and, instead, we should turn our focus inward and step into the roles that nature intended for us, and be a positive role-model for future generations to look up to.
Building Community around Family
While men and women can share equal roles within a family and out in the community, their capacities to serve in these roles depends on their gender!
Women are the primary caregivers of children and the main occupants of the family home. Men are best in their roles of serving in the community, where they can help build more structure and resources for their families.
Some couples may choose to swap roles, and have the father caring for the kids and maintaining the home, while the mother works full-time, bringing home the pay-check! This is fine, as long as there are strong reasons and foundations agreed upon, with an equal and fair share of responsibilities as an important area for discussion.
Strong communities create strong families! Strong families build strong communities!
There’s nothing in the rule-book that says that women should be confined to the family home full-time! As long as it’s safe to do so, and the children’s needs are being met, the mother may choose to leave them with another carer, or decide to take them with her when she leaves the house.
Often, when the kids are a bit older, regular adventures can enrich a child’s senses and allows them to grow in mind, body, and spirit! The mother can benefit from socialising and connecting with the community, as well as the stimulation received from shopping and collecting goods for the home.
After a hard day’s work, a man should be welcome into his family home, to relax and unwind, which enables him to recharge and be the support that the woman needs.
The tasks of cooking and cleaning can be a shared responsibility, where both parents contribute. Once, these tasks would’ve been handled amongst more helpers. Women would help women, and men would support men. A community effort would help to bring stability and inclusivity for every individual.
If we went back to having community dining halls, everyone could eat under the same roof and be treated as equals.
Unfortunately, families today are faced with immense pressures to make tough decisions surrounding the basics of survival and being able to feed, clothe, and put a a roof over their family’s heads. All of this stress is making society sick; mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
Resources need to be made more readily available, to be shared equally within our communities. The distribution of wealth and abundance is completely disproportionate around the globe! A healthy, thriving global community would be built around basic human values, including fairness, respect, compassion, generosity, responsibility, and loyalty to name a few. Each human being has a moral responsibility to understand their role in society of sustaining a healthier and happier future for our species. This means that no one should be placed in such high esteem that they believe themselves to be superior to everyone else. We need wise and humble leaders who are ready to help others.
It’s time that we all come together as a unified species! Stop feeding into the media narrative, which is controlled by the elites who don’t care about the rest of us! They want us to continue to act out of fear and hatred towards each other. These insecurities are used to control where our money is spent, according to our depravity.
Put those screens and gadgets down! Take a look at your home, your neighbourhood, and your community, and ask yourself what you can do to make a difference? Does your neighbour need help to mow their lawn? Could you grow more vegetables to feed your family and wider community? Could you volunteer to operate a community kitchen? Donate some items to someone who needs them. Invite neighbours over for a barbeque lunch! The more that we open up to strangers with kindness and respect, we build more trusting relationships with everyone in our community.
I recommend that we should have more community gatherings, where everyone can come together in art, music, dance, and laughter! Such events foster a sense of belonging and strengthen the bonds among community members, paving the way for deeper connections and shared experiences. Our children should be introduced to this spirit of connectedness and given the wonderful opportunity to explore their unique passions and talents in a nurturing environment. Adults need to support our youth by offering mentorship and encouragement, ensuring they have the chance to learn and grow into well-rounded individuals. If we see someone struggling or breaking rules, we should be prepared to talk to them with empathy, seeking to understand their situation and redirect them on a correct path toward personal growth and positive behavior. Bad behaviour should not be tolerated, as it can disrupt the harmony within our community; however, we must remember that it takes a village to raise our children correctly and with love. A troubled individual is a reflection of a troubled community, and this understanding should inspire us to adjust situations accordingly; by working together, we can strive to find the root cause of the problem and address it effectively, transforming challenges into opportunities for growth and healing.
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